I recently ended things with a guy I’ve been seeing for quite some time now. It was nothing serious – that was the issue – so I’m not as devastating as I could be. However, it’s still sad to lose something. With the holidays and New Year it wasn’t the best timing, but it’s best to start fresh with a new year, right?
I hate being the wallowing girl who falls apart because of a breakup, so I developed a challenge for myself years ago. It’s gotten me through quite a few boy dramas. Maybe it can help you too?
The challenge is this: every time you think about the guy, whether it’s to fight a desire to call him, how stupid you think so and so trait is, or plans you can no longer make, do something active. If you’re at work, walk around your floor. If you’re out with friends, dance with one of them. If you’re home, go to the gym (and stay there until you’re too tired to think about anything, but how tired your legs are). I’ll do some jumping jacks occasionally or pretend to be tap dancing.
The genius of this plan is two fold – one you’ll fight your depression with neurotransmitters and endorphins; two you’ll get in shape and be prepared for hitting the dating scene when you’re ready for something new.
After all, in the immortal words of Elle Woods (Legally Blonde), “Exercise gives you endorphins. Endorphins make you happy. Happy people just don’t shoot their husbands, they just don’t,” or at least they don’t stay curled up in bed all day crying over a guy (It is also scientifically proven that working out reduces stress and improve your general mood).
And it does work – the day after I ended things I went to the gym instead of texting him and had one of my best workouts in months, burning 760 calories by running on the elliptical for 45 minutes (which I probably needed since I also succumbed to tradition and ate a bunch of ice cream the day before).
So throw on those crazy colored workout clothes that have been hidden in your closet for a while, and go make yourself happy with an endorphin rush.
What are your post-break up routines and habits? Share in the comments how you get over your guy.