Celebrating Modern Black Authors

One of my favorite prompts across all of the dating apps I’ve tried, is OK Cupid’s “you should message me if…” I admit when I first started using dating apps, my answer wasn’t well thought out and quite generic. It was probably something silly and/or generic. However, as I grew and began to understand myself and what I was looking for, I adjusted my answer to this prompt. It now explains that people should only message me if their favorite creative works and artists – books, movies, shows, music – include females. To me it’s a great indicator that they are actively thinking about the patriarchy and ensuring that they have gender representation in what they consume (Bonus benefit: the number of inappropriate first messages decreased significantly).

When I wrote that answer, I realized I need to make sure that I was following my own requirement. Not with gender parity. That I knew I had. But in making sure that my own choices included people of color and different orientations. In particular, this has resulted in very intentionally diversifying my bookshelf.

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Disney Fashionista: Part of the World

What would I give if I could live out of these walls?

Wish I could be part of that world… It’s time for Disneybound, pandamic style! This week I’m really feeling trapped by the shelter in place situation, so I decided Ariel was the most appropriate inspiration for my Disney outfit this week.
Purple shirt folded in half lays next to teal leggings. A red hair pin, teal sunglasses, and orange sandals are on top of them. A cartoon of Ariel is overlaid on the clothing.
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Outfit of the Week: May 4th, Quarantine Style

It’s May 4th, which for us nerds is known as Star Wars day because it readily invites its self to the pun – May the Fourth be with you (May the Force by with you). I, like many other Star Wars fans, like to celebrate by dressing in something that celebrates it. My favorite shirt to wear on this particular day is one that I found at the Houston NASA campus a few years ago. It takes it to another level by using the physics formula for force, F=ma. Hard to tell in photos, but the text is actually sparkly, which I think adds just a little fun.

And since we’re still in shelter-in-place, I’ve paired it with typical lounging at home wear – leggings and slippers. Haha.

A bright blue shirt reads May the F=ma be with you in sparkling white text. Gray leggings and teal slippers are next to the shirt.

Dating in the time of COVID-19: Tips from a LDR Veteran

I know it’s been a while since I’ve published anything on this site. Other life priorities took precedence.

But as we all face this pandemic together, I was inspired (slash also had the time?) to share how I’m dealing with shelter-in-place as someone who is single, but dating. Dating is tricky, and I am by no means an expert. After having been in a long-distance relationship for years, however, I did get pretty good at virtual dating. It’s come in handy over the last few weeks. As we’re all virtual – and some states will be for at least another month – you may find this tips useful. Continue reading

Disney Fashionista: Work Outfits Inspired by Disney Characters – Blue Dress Belle

It’s been a while since I’ve done Outfit of the Week. But I really wanted to start it again. But rather than just putting cute outfits together, I wanted to give myself a goal or challenge to add to it.

So I decided to combine two loves – cute clothing and Disney.

Welcome to the Disney Fashionista Challenge! Once a week (at least, maybe I’ll try for more), I’ll wear an outfit to work that reflects as Disney character.

This week was Belle’s blue dress from Beauty and the Beast.

belle-inspired
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Austin Cityscape from the river

Keep Austin Weird: 10 Unique Things to Do in Austin, TX

Austin’s famous unofficial motto is Keep Austin Weird. Established by local businesses, it’s an effort to encourage individuals to buy from Austin-run businesses and grow the local economy. BFF hates it and dislikes when she inadvertently (inevitably) describes something in Austin as weird. I kind of love it, however. To me, it embraces that which makes businesses exist there and not elsewhere and experiences you can only have in Austin. But it also expands beyond the businesses to the people themselves. Austin welcomes that which makes us unique as humans. And that’s pretty cool.

With BFF and family living in Texas, I’ve spent a fair amount of time in Austin. During my summer of travel, I got to experience a month of Keep Austin Weird and break away from the traditional tourist items on lists on this topic. Everyone knows about the Museum of Weird or the Cathedral of Junk. I wanted to find things a bit more “local” that might not be on lists as frequently. So here are my 10 recommendations for distinctive, Austin activities. Continue reading

Peanut Butter Rice Crispy Treats

Deliciously Peanut Buttery Peanut Butter Rice Krispy Treats

For years I struggled with peanut butter flavored rice krispy treats. I never thought they were very good, and they certainly were never very strong in peanut butter flavor. What is the point if they don’t taste like peanut butter?

So, I decided to make my own.

I spent years testing it, trying different ingredients, and adjusting the amounts, until I finally found the perfect recipe.

And, if you’re looking for a last minute treat for Halloween, these are perfect! Continue reading